Love this post! And a good reminder for me, too, to not only focusing on leaving space during recovery, but make it a lifelong practice. Thanks for sharing!
Perfect timing for me as well. Since I left my marriage I've been working so much less and VOILA! I'm healthier. PTS symptoms way down. Happier. I posted this on Linked In and emailed it!
It means to get rid of your preconceived knowledge. It's a well known story about a guy going to see a monk for training, the monk giving him some tea, until it spills out and it's overflowing.
"Stop!" says know it all dude, "it's spilling!"
The monk goes, "That's like your mind--how can I teach you when your cup is already over flowing?"
Oh I like that. I was coming from a different angle - giving to others without looking after yourself is like trying to pour from an empty cup. But I like both analogies, because language is fun!
I’m very familiar with that problem; I’d say it’s more of a broken cup—you can’t pour well because your own structure is chipping away. But you also can’t pour what the other person needs, with genuine heart, if you can’t be present and pour just the right amount, either.
and it's up, dunno if you had a chance to see. I X posted it in aikido reddit and got a mostly positive response, as well, aside from the usual trolls.
Just spent the afternoon hunched over my laptop ha ha..good thing I live at a latitude where the sun sets at 9:30. Should be up in the next couple days.
Wow, that's pretty intense. I know someone in Iceland where it gets mostly light all the time and mostly dark all the time. Seems hard to deal with but sounds like you have a system.
Yep. My friend in Berlin (who is an excellent writer full of wonderful stories, but sadly doesn’t give a F about writing online anymore), was camping in northern Norway a couple years ago. The sun doesn’t set in summer. Luckily she’s a hardy Russian and nothing external like that bothers her, so she just pitched camp and ate and slept regardless of such details, or things Europeans don’t need to worry about, for the most part, like bears. 😀
Love this post! And a good reminder for me, too, to not only focusing on leaving space during recovery, but make it a lifelong practice. Thanks for sharing!
Ah, thanks so much, Nicole! I'm glad you liked the post! I really appreciate your writing on recovery. Your posts have helped me a lot!
Perfect timing for me as well. Since I left my marriage I've been working so much less and VOILA! I'm healthier. PTS symptoms way down. Happier. I posted this on Linked In and emailed it!
Thanks so much for reading and sharing, Skye! I appreciate you. I'm glad you are healthier after working less. That's really great.
A beautifully written, well reasoned reminder that you cannot pour from an empty cup. Thanks, Rey.
Thanks so much for reading! I think the empty cup is a good way of expressing it quickly and vividly, thanks!
And yet, Zen says to "empty your cup," as one of the first and most important lessons!
Ooh. I don't know how to think about that!
It means to get rid of your preconceived knowledge. It's a well known story about a guy going to see a monk for training, the monk giving him some tea, until it spills out and it's overflowing.
"Stop!" says know it all dude, "it's spilling!"
The monk goes, "That's like your mind--how can I teach you when your cup is already over flowing?"
Oh I like that. I was coming from a different angle - giving to others without looking after yourself is like trying to pour from an empty cup. But I like both analogies, because language is fun!
I’m very familiar with that problem; I’d say it’s more of a broken cup—you can’t pour well because your own structure is chipping away. But you also can’t pour what the other person needs, with genuine heart, if you can’t be present and pour just the right amount, either.
This was such a valuable lesson for me right now. I'm really grateful you wrote about it at just the right time.
Oh, I'm so glad this resonates! Thank you for reading!
I am literally writing about some ideas connected to this right now, as I received this, on this sunny Saturday! Good entry! I agree (unsurprisingly).
Oh, amazing! I'd love to read your thoughts. Thank you!
and it's up, dunno if you had a chance to see. I X posted it in aikido reddit and got a mostly positive response, as well, aside from the usual trolls.
Just spent the afternoon hunched over my laptop ha ha..good thing I live at a latitude where the sun sets at 9:30. Should be up in the next couple days.
I love those late sunsets! Very cool!
It starts to mess with you, since the sun also comes up around 5 AM. Blackout curtains are essential.
Wow, that's pretty intense. I know someone in Iceland where it gets mostly light all the time and mostly dark all the time. Seems hard to deal with but sounds like you have a system.
Yep. My friend in Berlin (who is an excellent writer full of wonderful stories, but sadly doesn’t give a F about writing online anymore), was camping in northern Norway a couple years ago. The sun doesn’t set in summer. Luckily she’s a hardy Russian and nothing external like that bothers her, so she just pitched camp and ate and slept regardless of such details, or things Europeans don’t need to worry about, for the most part, like bears. 😀