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Love these tips...and that you included the tips for allies too! Things are so much easier when you have some good support.

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Thanks very much! Absolutely, support is so important!

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This is so great! I usually try to post something for folks still struggling sigh family every year around this time but I never thought of adding ally tips, that’s brilliant and important. It’s my cishet siblings that did the best by me when I first came out! Thanks for this.

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Thanks so much, Kelli! I am glad you liked the post, that means a lot to me. That's great your siblings were there for you when you came out.

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Struggling with not struggling sigh. Although that kind of makes sense too

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My favorite tip is "decide if you even want to go." It took me so many years to have the courage to opt out in this way. We have such a twisted sense of obligation around family, and this was very freeing to realize.

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Thanks, I'm glad that resonates with you. It does feel like such an obligation for many people and it's not simple to not go. I'm glad you were able to opt out.

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This is a great list! I so wish I had it back in the day. And I'm happy for the people who can benefit from it now that they have your wisdom supporting them!

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Thanks so much, LC! Hey, I wish I knew about this when I was younger also. I really appreciate your kind words.

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